ARE YOU WORRIED ABOUT THE FUTURE OF YOUR RELATIONSHIP?
· Do you miss the closeness, and fun you and your partner once shared?
· Are you living more like roommates rather than husband and wife?
· Do you feel lonely and unappreciated?
· Are you walking on eggshells, or tired of having the same fight over and over?
· Have you thought about a divorce, splitting up, or wondering if your marriage will always be unhappy?
· Has trust been broken in your marriage, and you are wondering if you can ever trust again?
Relationship issues can be isolating and overwhelming, especially if it feels like you and your partner aren’t on the same team.
Like many couples, you and your partner might have busy lives, with careers, families, and other obligations that leave you feeling stressed and drained. After a hectic day, maybe all you want is to come home and feel recognized and supported by your partner.
Instead, you come home to a relationship that is stuck, wondering what the evening will bring. As time goes on you may wonder if it’s possible to build the relationship that you crave.
MOST COUPLES STRUGGLE WITH CONFLICT AT ONE TIME OR ANOTHER
Few of us have had the opportunity to learn how to foster a loving, secure relationship. We don’t always know how to be open and honest. And, it’s challenging to establish both healthy boundaries and healthy closeness.
Relationship issues are nothing to be ashamed of, they are very common. You and your partner are far from alone.
As humans, we are wired to connect with one another. We find strength in feeling seen, heard, and valued. And we find joy in offering this same care to someone else.
Your relationship can be a safe and stable foundation that offers you the support you need to face the challenges of this life. A skilled therapist can help you both move forward, together as a couple.
COUPLES THERAPY CAN HELP YOU BUILD A TRUSTING AND CLOSE RELATIONSHIP
Whether you have been together for months or decades, your relationship matters. I am committed to helping you find your way back to one another. Therapy provides an opportunity to slow down conflict before it reaches its boiling point. It allows you to sort out what you are feeling, as well as be tuned in to what your partner is feeling. With some guidance, you both learn to express your feelings, wants, and needs without spiraling into yet another argument. Essentially; you can start to communicate.
WHAT TO EXPECT FROM ME:
· A place where each of you can be honest
· Support for you both as individuals
· Support and hope for your relationship
· Practical tools to build communication skills
WHAT WE WILL WORK ON:
· Repetitive arguments
· Patterns of shutting down or lashing out
· Old hurts
· Broken trust and crossed boundaries
· Feelings of loneliness and rejection
WHAT YOU WILL ACHIEVE:
· Build trust
· Learn how to be honest with your partner
· Learn to listen to your partners point of view
· Recognize each person’s role in the relationship problems
· How to work as a team
No matter what you both are struggling with, change is absolutely possible.
QUESTIONS AND CONCERNS
WHAT IF MY PARTNER WON’T COME TO THERAPY
That’s ok. You can’t force your partner to come, you only have control over yourself. While it’s best if both of you are here, you can shift the relationship on your own. Therapy can help you recognize your negative patterns and behaviors. By making these positive changes on your own, your relationship is likely to grow in response.
WE DON’T HAVE TIME FOR COUPLES THERAPY
I know! I get it! Time is precious. So much to do, so many people to take care of. However, I want you to think about how much time and energy your relationship is eating up.
When a relationship is working well, it becomes the foundation for other areas of your life. Your relationship can be a place of renewal and rest, allowing you to have the energy it takes to fulfill all other responsibilities.
DO WE REALLY NEED THERAPY? CAN’T WE FIGURE THIS OUT ON OUR OWN?
Chances are, you’ve tried everything you can think of to figure it out on your own. And that’s ok, that’s what brings couples into counseling. When you are stuck in the conflict it’s often hard to see what is actually going on…someone on the outside has a different point of view and can see the conflict objectively without being attached.
You can be a relationship expert and still find it difficult to be objective about your own. Surprise, surprise…even relationship experts need help at times.
Building a healthy relationship is a learned skill, and you both deserve the opportunity to learn it.
Text, call, or fill out the form on this page. I look forward to meeting you. 🙂